"The focus on fear... reflects an underlying refusal to acknowledge young people's sexual citizenship. It's magical thinking to believe that young people can learn to put their bodies close to other bodies, safely and without anyone getting hurt, when for most kids the only message that they get from their parents is 'not under my roof.' Most parents whose children want to learn to drive spend a great deal of time teaching them -- talking about the rules of the road, how to drive defensively, how to protect pedestrians and cyclists... And with much younger children, parents and caregivers expend enormous energy helping them to move safely in the street. Don't cross against the red, and walk facing traffic... It takes a lot of work to teach kids to move their bodies safely through the world. We know this about everything, it seems, except sex."